Imperfect, Therefore Beautiful Series (Two Volumes)

海蓝博士Beijing United Publishing Co., Ltd. · ChinaFeb 2023

3.8

Word count: 230K words
Chapters: 26

Summary

A great work of psychology that leads you out of life's difficulties and toward a happy life, with prefaces and recommendations from over 50 leading figures at home and abroad, including Yang Lan, Yu Minhong, Xu Xiaoping and Zhou Guoping. A major work by Dr. Hai Lan, a world-renowned psychologist of mindful self-compassion! This is an invitation to a new life, helping you boost inner motivation, emotional management skills and the capacity for happiness. Step onto the road to happiness that few know.

Editor's review

Dr. Hai Lan's "Imperfect, Beautiful" focuses on where ordinary people most often get stuck: emotions, relationships, self-doubt and inner motivation. Grounded in mindful self-compassion, it promises no quick fixes; instead it guides readers to stop fighting themselves, then learn to settle body and mind under pressure. Read together, one volume leans toward shifting perspectives and the other toward practices and application, making the reading itself a form of self-training rather than one-off entertainment. The organization values practicality, and chapters need not be read strictly in order; readers can pick what fits their current difficulty. The layout and language are approachable, accessible even without a psychology background. Its highlight is turning "accepting imperfection" from a slogan into practice steps, using many everyday situations to help readers recognize their own reaction patterns. Keep it by the bed or on the desk, read a short section at a time, and pair it with notes and review; that yields more than reading it all at once.

Who it's for

A good fit for

Working readers whose emotions have been up and down lately and who want to learn self-regulation
People who repeatedly struggle in intimate relationships or parent-child communication and want to change how they respond
Beginners interested in psychology who worry about jargon
Self-growth readers willing to build inner stability through small practices

Not a good fit for

Professional readers seeking rigorous academic argument or systematic knowledge of psychopathology
People hoping one book will quickly solve serious psychological distress
Readers who prefer strong narrative and lack patience for practice-based content

Reading tips

Read the table of contents first and start with the chapter closest to your current difficulty rather than page one
After each section, jot down three things: your usual reaction, the book's reminder, and one step to try next time
Break the practices into five-minute daily tasks and review your notes after two weeks
Alternate between the two volumes so the perspective volume and practice volume reinforce each other; avoid reading without doing

About the publisher

Beijing United Publishing Co., Ltd. China · Founded in 1993

Beijing United Publishing Co., Ltd. is a publisher known for its literature and history titles, with 2,065 books in the collection. Its publishing covers foreign literature, contemporary Chinese prose and essays, history, folk literature, and cultural books. Its list ranges from Sima Qian's complete edition of the Records of the Grand Historian to foreign classics such as The Book of Disquiet, All Quiet on the Western Front, Snow Country, The Stranger, and Jean-Christophe, as well as modern Chinese works including Teahouse and Dawn Blossoms Plucked at Dusk. Its authors and translators include Yasunari Kawabata, Fernando Pessoa, Erich Maria Remarque, Jin Xinyi, Zhou Miao, and Chen Chao. Public information is limited, but its catalogue reflects a balance between Chinese and foreign literary classics and historical and cultural works.

版权信息
不完美，才美
海蓝博士简介
名人推荐
作者序
第一章少有人明白的幸福之道
第二章所有的伤痛都值得欣赏
第三章少有人知道的亲密关系真相
第四章要做就做 “不费力也讨好的父母”
第五章工作，要有快乐和成就感
第六章感恩所有的不完美
名家评论
后记每一个在我生命中出现的人，都是命运的悉心安排
不完美，才美Ⅱ
自序
推荐序
第一章谁的人生都有好像过不去的坎
第二章少有人知道的情绪真相
第三章掌握人生最大的本领：与任何不如意和平相处
第四章总是那些看不见的伤痕更深更疼：如何走出抑郁的黑洞
第五章不焦虑的智慧
第六章情绪梳理七步法
第七章静观自我关怀：找到世界上最爱自己的那个人
第八章培养积极情绪，一切尽在手中
后记接纳自己以为的不完美，本身就是一种自我关怀
大家评论

FAQ

Can I understand this set without a psychology background?

Yes. The book centers on everyday situations and practical exercises, explaining technical terms when they appear; no prior knowledge of psychology is needed. What matters more is whether you are willing to pause and observe yourself and try the exercises, not how much you already know.

In what order should I read the two volumes?

No strict order is required. Start with the table of contents and pick the topic closest to your current difficulty; if you prefer to build perspective first, begin with the more cognitive volume, and if you prefer hands-on practice, begin with the more method-oriented one. Alternating between them usually works best.

Can this set replace psychological counseling?

It cannot. It suits everyday self-regulation and growth, helping readers recognize emotions and reaction patterns, but serious, persistent distress still requires professional assessment and help. Treating the book as an auxiliary tool rather than a treatment is the safer approach.

I forget things easily after reading; how do I put it to use?

Choose just one or two exercises that resonate most and repeat them at a fixed time and place, such as five minutes before bed or a pause after commuting. Keep brief notes and review once a week. Small but steady beats reading a lot at once.

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About the author

海蓝博士 Author

Dr. Hai Lan is an author known for writing on applied psychology and inspirational personal growth. Her publicly available personal information is currently limited, with no clear records of her nationality, dates of birth and death, or educational background. The library holds six of her works, including Partial Psychology and the "Imperfect, That's Beautiful" series, which comprises the single volume Imperfect, That's Beautiful, the two-volume collection Imperfect, That's Beautiful Series, Imperfect, That's Beautiful II: Emotions Determine Destiny, Imperfect, That's Beautiful III, and a three-volume set. These works show that her writing centers on themes such as self-acceptance, emotional management, and psychological growth. They are aimed at general readers who wish to improve their mental state and learn to live with their own imperfections, and her style tends toward accessible psychological self-help and life reflection.