Clarity
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Summary
A clear-minded person, first, knows their own purpose; second, can clarify the logic behind others' behavior; third, can let go of illusions about human nature and expectations of others.
This is Yang Tianzhen's A-to-Z dictionary of human nature, and also a life-cheat-sheet for raising emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and inner growth, helping you live with confidence, understanding, and clarity.
Pure substance, no chicken soup—Yang Tianzhen starts from underlying logic to break fixed assumptions about work and life!
Yang Tianzhen, founder of the plus-size womenswear brand PLUSMALL, draws on her rich experience in the workplace, life, and entrepreneurship. Starting from key words about human nature, with true-to-life cases and witty, incisive analysis, she helps readers dig deep into human nature, understand themselves, observe the world, grasp the true meaning of emotional intelligence, analyze common contemporary problems such as anxiety, social phobia, confusion, and indecision, view rationally the gray areas of human nature—envy, vanity, competitiveness—and find their own anchor in a changing world.
Editor's review
Yang Tianzhen's writing continues her signature "sincere and direct" style—no chicken soup, no beating around the bush—adept at using business cases and workplace stories to illuminate complex human issues, making the lessons accessible and down-to-earth. The book's core value lies in offering a "rational view of human nature," helping readers understand their own and others' motives, establish healthier interpersonal boundaries, and make wiser decisions, thereby reducing internal friction and improving efficiency. For modern people who find relationships complicated, often trapped in emotional distress, or wish to raise self-awareness, this book is like a practical "user's manual for human nature."
It should be noted that the views stem from the author's personal experience; the style is direct, even sharp, and not a systematic academic theory. It is better used as a thought-provoking, inspiring "toolbook" to be absorbed critically in light of one's own situation, not treated as absolute truth.
Who it's for
A good fit for
- Young people new to the workplace who want to quickly understand interpersonal rules and avoid pitfalls
- People often caught in emotional friction—sensitivity, indecision, inferiority—who desire a rational action guide
- Observers curious about human nature who want to discern motives behind behavior through cases
- Readers who appreciate direct, pragmatic, no-nonsense communication and conduct
Not a good fit for
- Academic readers seeking rigorous, systematic psychological theory
- Those who prefer literary or philosophical expression and have little interest in bluntly practical guidebooks
Reading tips
- You need not read cover to cover; use the table of contents to prioritize chapters on keywords you are facing or curious about.
- As you read, recall and reflect on your own relevant experiences and try applying the book's analyses.
- Treat the advice as "optional strategies" rather than "the only answer," adjusting in practice to fit your situation.
About the publisher
Hunan Literature and Art Publishing House is a publisher known for its literary titles, with a catalogue spanning foreign literature, world classics, classical Chinese literature, essays and miscellaneous writings, and mystery and detective fiction. Judging from the more than 1,100 books in the database, the press publishes foreign classics such as Crime and Punishment, Snow Country, The Complete Sherlock Holmes and Letter from an Unknown Woman, as well as Chinese classical and modern literary works including Lu Xun's Wandering and A Madman's Diary and Wu Jingzi's The Scholars. In terms of translators and authors, translations by Cao Guowei and Tan Jinghua appear in its foreign literature titles, and the authors involved include Dostoevsky, Kawabata Yasunari, Conan Doyle and Zweig. Its publishing character lies in introducing Chinese and foreign literary classics side by side, balancing popular and serious works and attending to both readability and literary value. Public information is limited; the above is a brief overview based solely on the books in the database.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 推荐序
- 自序
- 上瘾 能让人上瘾的，都是坏东西吗
- 真正让小丁上瘾的是被赞美和关注
- 如何正视自己的欲望
- 上瘾不是疾病
- 如何用积极上瘾的方式戒除消极上瘾
- 通透时刻
- 好胜 不要让“想赢”变成伤害彼此的武器
- 警惕不健康的胜负欲
- 好胜心来源于什么
- 找准你的竞争目标，别把好胜心的战场放在亲密关系上
- 如何调整被胜负欲支配的状态
- 通透时刻
- 从众 随大溜会让人变得平庸吗
- 正反两面看“从众”
- 从众≠丧失独立思考能力
- 问题不在于从众，而在于看清自己的真实需求
- 通透时刻
- 钝感力 别人的一个眼神，就会让我陷入自我怀疑
- 是玻璃心，还是太过在意外界的反馈
- 打造“钝感力防护罩”
- 通透时刻
- 共情 共情并不等于同情
- 共情在前，共识在后
- 假共情与无效共情只会耗损精力，对关系也并无助益
- 共情能力，也能练习
- 通透时刻
- 嫉妒 希望朋友好，又不希望他比我好，如何直视这种嫉妒
- 嫉妒源于竞争
- 嫉妒的前提是你对“假想敌”的认同和羡慕
- 嫉妒的本质是你主观觉得“这不公平”
- 别让嫉妒压制住你
- 偏心偏爱 明明我做得比他好，为什么他们偏爱他
- 原生家庭中的偏心：父母难以改变，那就积极调整自我感受
- 正视职场中的偏爱：不必过分讨好，也不必瞎操心
- 宽容 你以为的宽容，实际上可能是纵容
- 警惕无底线的宽容
- 宽容的智慧
- 宽容，从来都不是纵容
- 贪婪 “见好就收”，说起来容易，做起来好难
- 人为什么总是“既要……又要……还要……”
- 管理自己的贪心
- 虚伪 别做个虚伪的好人
- 虚伪不是你的保护伞
- 摘下虚伪者的面具
- 通透时刻
- 自卑 逃避与人交流，社交恐惧症该如何自处
- “社恐”是自卑者内心设置的回避机制
- 走出“社恐”的保护壳
- 对于低质量社交就大胆拒绝，内向者也有生存之道
- 通透时刻
- 纠结 因为选择困难，我错过了太多好机会
- 究竟是什么让你“选择困难”
- 那么，如何让选择变得更容易
- 通透时刻
- 偏见 别执着于纠正别人的偏见
- 人人反对偏见，可人人都有偏见
- 偏见是基于思维惰性带来的认知局限
- 摒除偏见的杂念
- 通透时刻
- 做事鲁莽 为什么我总是好心办坏事
- 情商低不是做事鲁莽的借口
- 改变鲁莽行为，有法可循
- 警惕那些别有用心的“善良”
- 多嘴 经常说漏嘴，我为什么不长记性
- 为什么人人都爱“秘密”
- 泄密并不是维系关系的终极砝码
- 如何改变“多嘴”的自己
- 爱 略显沉重的爱，该如何回应
- 坦然接受不同价值观下的爱
- 面对略显沉重的亲情：适当“麻烦”父母
- 面对淹没自我的爱情：适配度很重要
- 操纵 守护好你的自信与边界
- 遇到职场PUA，不妨保持“渣男心态”
- 到底什么是PUA呢
- 那么，我们如何才能避免被职场PUA呢
- 面对父母的情感绑架，建立边界感最重要
- 别陷入另一半的情感控制
- 通透时刻
- 爱管闲事 无法专注的人更爱管闲事
- 爱管闲事可不是“热心肠”
- 如何逃出“瞎忙”的怪圈
- 通透时刻
- 瓶颈 原地扑腾，难以突破，处于瓶颈期的我该怎么办
- 瓶颈期是事物发展过程中不可避免的阶段
- 世界无常，坦然于此刻；或是勇于破局，大不了从头再来
- 通透时刻
- 画饼 我努力工作等升职，领导却只会画大饼
- 被画饼的人其实是在逃避自己正处于弱势地位的事实
- 精准洞察“画饼大师”
- 设置好一个出口
- 通透时刻
- 轻言放弃者 因为害怕做不好，我不敢开始
- 畏难是一种“人之常情”
- 自我认知上：空有想法，离成功还很远
- 目标设定上：不是先立一个宏大目标，而是先走好每一步
- 通透时刻
- 相互指责 为什么被甩锅的总是我
- 你的“职场人设”是什么
- 这世界上几乎不存在完美且绝对公平的职场关系
- 拒做“职场老好人”，把丑话说在前头
- 通透时刻
- 安全感 总觉得没有安全感，是我太“作”了吗
- 如何建立一段对等的亲密关系
- 通透时刻
- 节制 自律不是每天五公里
- 假自律与真自律
- 找到你的自律配方
- 如何做到真自律
- 功利 功利交友，最后竹篮打水
- 过度的功利心会让人成为利益的奴隶
- 如何避免功利心过度
- 虚荣 太爱面子，有错吗
- 虚荣的副作用一：放大一些感受，引人误入歧途
- 虚荣的副作用二：虚张声势，让人活在自己创造的假象里
- 虚荣幻象的破解之法：划分自己的“能力圈”，寻找内心真实的需求
- 通透时刻
- 三分钟热度 做什么事情都没常性，就注定失败吗
- “三分钟热度”的本质：人都会喜新厌旧，害怕受挫
- 三分钟热度的人注定无法成功吗
- 因素 成事的重要特质——主动
- 被动逃避还是主动选择
- 主动最大的障碍——学生思维
- 通透时刻
- 讨好型人格 为什么我越讨好别人，越难获得认可
- 成长过程中被打压是形成讨好型人格的罪魁祸首
- 讨好型人格的本质是没有形成完整的自我
- 停止讨好
- 通透时刻
- 从零开始
- 附录
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About the author
Yang Tianzhen is an author for whom publicly available information is currently limited; her nationality, dates of birth and death, and educational background are not clearly recorded. Judging from the two works held in the collection, Tongtou (Clear Understanding) and Qu Yujian (Go and Meet), her writing falls mainly between the genres of inspirational growth and youth literature, aimed at young readers seeking self-awareness and emotional resonance. The title Tongtou suggests a work concerned with clarity of mind and an understanding of interpersonal relationships, while Qu Yujian carries the sense of outward exploration and growth through experience. The two books share similar themes, indicating the author's sustained attention to inner states and personal growth. Because verifiable information is scarce, a full account of her work and writing style is difficult to give; readers may begin with these two books and form their own impression of her writing and expression.
