The Communication of Love
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Summary
In the book, drawing on 40 years of research and actual test results from nearly 10,000 couples, the author scientifically answers a series of common questions about love: How can you enhance your charm? Why do men always fail to understand women? How can you win over the woman of your dreams? Why do women become angrier during arguments? Unlike other views that claim "the main focus of gender relations is on women," the author focuses on men, proposing that the key to gender relations lies not only in men understanding women but also in men doing themselves well.
Editor's review
Who it's for
A good fit for
- Young men who repeatedly struggle in relationships and want to understand their own issues
- Readers who want to build a mature view of love and marriage and prepare for a long-term relationship
- Female partners who want to understand how men think in relationships
- Practitioners in relationship counseling or psychological education who need a reference framework
Not a good fit for
- Readers expecting quick techniques for finding a partner and scripted lines
- Readers who reject gender differences as an entry point
- Those who only want theory and are unwilling to reflect on their own behavior
Reading tips
- Read the section on men's self-awareness first, then move on to the chapters on male-female interaction; the order flows better.
- After each chapter, write down a recent relationship conflict of your own that corresponds to it.
- Read it in sections with your partner and exchange views on the book's points rather than arguing over who is right.
- No need to memorize data-based conclusions one by one; focus on actionable behavioral suggestions.
About the publisher
Zhejiang Science and Technology Publishing House is a comprehensive science and technology publisher known for academic monographs, applied technology titles and popular science books, with a focus on three areas: scholarship, popular science and science education. Judging from the books in the catalog, its publishing covers popular science, medicine, management, social psychology, Eastern philosophy and personal finance. It publishes works by overseas authors such as Douglas Hofstadter, Atul Gawande and Carlota Perez alongside Chinese writers including Liu Jian, Hu Hai, Wang Yifang and Peng Xiaohua. Representative titles include Surfaces and Essences: Analogy as the Fuel and Fire of Thinking, Being Mortal, Technological Revolutions and Financial Capital, A Short History of the Human Body (full-color illustrated edition), and Gawande's Better and Complications, spanning cognitive science, medical humanities and the social dimensions of technology. Its distinctive approach is to connect scholarship and the general reader through popular science, valuing both ideas and readability. As public information is limited, this profile is drawn only from the books in the catalog.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 测一测 对于爱和忠诚，你到底了解多少？
- 中文版序 是什么让我们在一起
- 译者序 了解另一半，做好你自己
- 前言 爱情实验室的秘密
- 第一部分 读懂女人
- 01 女人究竟要什么 理解女人心
- 02 女人独特的思维 理解女人大脑的艺术
- 第二部分 约会必读
- 03 男士魅力法则 理解女人和吸引力
- 04 成功约会守则 约会注意事项
- 第三部分 科学求爱
- 05 吸引的科学原理 诱惑的秘密
- 06 看清对方的真心 理解女人的真实需求
- 第四部分 享受性爱
- 07 想象就是一切 理解女人如何看待她们的身体
- 08 奇妙的女性身体 一堂解剖课
- 09 变成她最棒的伴侣 激情性爱的通识读本
- 第五部分 相处之道
- 10 学着像女孩一样争吵 理解女人和冲突的关系
- 11 为什么买一双鞋要花这么长时间 理解购物的进化重要性
- 12 永远的好朋友 理解女人和闺蜜的友谊
- 第六部分 共度一生
- 13 她是不是你的唯一 理解女人和承诺
- 14 天生的母亲 理解女人和孩子
- 15 共度一生 一生一世的爱情
- 致谢
- 审校后记
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About the author
John Gottman is a psychology author known for his work on intimate relationships and emotions. Publicly available information about him is limited, and his nationality, dates of birth and death, and educational background are unknown. Six of his works are included in the collection, with representative titles such as The Communication of Love, The Game of Love, The Conflict of Love, The Communication of Love: A Scientific Dating Guide for Men, and The Seven Faces of People. These works fall mainly under applied psychology and social psychology and center on how partners communicate, handle conflict, recognize emotions, and maintain relationships. His writing tends to turn research observations into practical advice, using accessible language and closely linking examples with situations. The subtitle of The Communication of Love: A Scientific Dating Guide for Men indicates that it addresses a specific readership and discusses love and getting along from a scientific perspective, while The Seven Faces of People extends the focus to broader emotional and interpersonal recognition. Overall, Gottman's writing emphasizes the interactive details and emotional mechanisms of relationships and is suitable for general readers who wish to understand how intimate relationships work.
Julie Schwartz Gottman is an author who writes about intimate relationships and marital communication. Publicly available information about her is currently limited, and her nationality, dates of birth and death, and educational background are not clearly documented. Judging from the two works included in the library, The Communication of Love and The Conflict of Love, her writing focuses on the everyday interactions between partners: how to listen and express oneself, and how to face disagreements and emotional friction, translating methods from applied psychology into steps that ordinary readers can practice. Her style tends toward the practical and the case-based, avoiding a pile-up of jargon, and aims to help readers understand the needs and emotional patterns behind conflict. These two books are often classified under applied psychology and are suitable for readers who wish to improve the quality of communication in intimate relationships. Owing to limited material, her personal history and academic identity still await further documentation.
Public information about Dugra Abaha is currently limited: his nationality, dates of birth and death, educational background, and professional experience are not clearly documented. Within this catalog, only one work by him, Love Communication, is included, categorized under applied psychology. Judging from the title and category, the book concerns emotional expression and understanding in interpersonal communication and is a psychology-oriented title for general readers. For an author with such sparse information, rather than filling in a biography with conjecture, it is better to return to the text itself: readers can use the book's discussion of listening, expression, and maintaining relationships to reflect on obstacles and misunderstandings in everyday communication. As more verifiable works and background information are lacking, this entry focuses mainly on the work and will be updated if reliable materials emerge.
Public information about Rachel Aberha is limited, and her nationality, dates of birth and death, and full educational background cannot currently be confirmed. Only one work by her is held in the collection, titled Love's Communication. Based on the available information, the book falls under applied psychology, suggesting that the author writes for general readers and focuses on the psychological mechanisms of emotional relationships and everyday communication. Works of this kind often rely on relatable cases and practical advice to help readers understand expression and listening in intimate relationships. As her representative work, Love's Communication is the main basis for understanding Aberha's direction as a writer. Given the lack of more detailed biographical material, readers may begin with this book to appreciate her observations and reflections on emotional communication, and watch for further works or information that may gradually complete the picture of her writing.
