The Game of Love
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Who it's for
A good fit for
- Couples in a stable relationship who feel communication and intimacy declining
- Married readers going through a trust crisis who want to sort things out rationally
- General readers interested in relationship psychology and empirical research
- Counselors and marriage therapists seeking a reference
Not a good fit for
- Readers hoping for quick reconciliation or tactics to manipulate a partner
- Situations involving violence, addiction, or other issues requiring professional intervention
- Those who want light emotional essays and no reflective exercises
Reading tips
- Start with the chapters on trust-erosion signals and conflict patterns, then make a nonjudgmental observation record of your own relationship.
- Read it separately with your partner, then set a time to discuss just one concept from the book, so reading doesn't turn into mutual blame.
- After each chapter, write down one small action you can change yourself rather than demanding the other change first.
- When a case hits hard, pause and ask: is there a similar cycle in our relationship?
About the publisher
Zhejiang Science and Technology Publishing House is a comprehensive science and technology publisher known for academic monographs, applied technology titles and popular science books, with a focus on three areas: scholarship, popular science and science education. Judging from the books in the catalog, its publishing covers popular science, medicine, management, social psychology, Eastern philosophy and personal finance. It publishes works by overseas authors such as Douglas Hofstadter, Atul Gawande and Carlota Perez alongside Chinese writers including Liu Jian, Hu Hai, Wang Yifang and Peng Xiaohua. Representative titles include Surfaces and Essences: Analogy as the Fuel and Fire of Thinking, Being Mortal, Technological Revolutions and Financial Capital, A Short History of the Human Body (full-color illustrated edition), and Gawande's Better and Complications, spanning cognitive science, medical humanities and the social dimensions of technology. Its distinctive approach is to connect scholarship and the general reader through popular science, valuing both ideas and readability. As public information is limited, this profile is drawn only from the books in the catalog.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 中文版序 是什么让我们在一起
- 前言 爱的毒药与解药
- 第一部分 洞悉两性关系的真相
- 01 信任困境 信任还是不信任
- 02 三个盒子的选择 亲密关系的情绪收藏
- 03 欺骗的迷雾 从可能到事实的出轨路线图
- 04 男人与性 与性背叛有关
- 05 背叛的10种方式 从精神出轨到消极对比
- 第一部分 塑造更坚韧的关系
- 06 情绪协调 信任与和谐的基石
- 07 集体独白的困局 实现亲密对话的艺术
- 08 “滑动门时刻”的博弈 向伴侣靠近
- 09 戈特曼-拉波波特蓝图 让冲突讨论富有建设性
- 10 出轨概率 出轨的预测及修复
- 11 距离与美的谬误 婚姻中的性爱地图
- 12 “我们”和“我” 应该放手的时刻
- 13 零和婚姻的救赎 重新学习信任
- 14 真爱矩阵 你是否拥有值得信任的真爱
- 附录1 亲密对话的4个补充技能
- 附录2 冲突解决工具包
- 附录3 为什么不做爱了:从博弈论开始的分析
- 译者后记
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