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Editor's review
Who it's for
A good fit for
- Workplace newcomers hoping to improve interpersonal communication and social coping skills
- Readers interested in observing human nature and relationship strategies who enjoy case-based reading
- Readers who often feel passive in cooperation and negotiation and want to learn to leverage circumstances
- General readers used to fragmented reading who prefer brisk, practical books
Not a good fit for
- Readers expecting systematic psychological theory or rigorous academic research
- Readers averse to handling relationships through strategies and techniques
- Those seeking instant success methods
Reading tips
- After each case, recall a recent similar social situation of your own and do a brief review against the book's strategies.
- Organize the book's methods into your own checklist under three steps—observe, judge, respond—for easy daily use.
- While reading, distinguish "understanding others" from "manipulating others"; stay wary of overreaching techniques and flag your doubts.
- Read a chapter with a friend and discuss your views on the cases to test the boundaries of the strategies' applicability.
About the publisher
Public information on Jinan Publishing House is limited. Judging from the books in the library, its publishing focus leans toward history, Eastern philosophy, inspirational growth and management. Representative titles include A Century of Tsinghua (1911–2011), along with works on traditional culture and the art of dealing with people and affairs, such as The Way of the I Ching in Getting Things Done, Openness: The Confidence and Art of Achieving Results in Difficult Situations, Shrewdness and Handling. Related authors include Li Zichi, Wang Fulei, Wang Shaonong, Qiao Xin and Wen Fei, who form the press's author resources in these areas. Overall, its books tend to distill lessons and methods for conducting oneself from history and traditional culture, balancing readability with practicality.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 第一章 瞄准狙击
- 贪婪是祸端，是最致命的弱点
- 头脑发热，必然破绽百出
- 迁怒是最无用的发泄、最致命的漏洞
- 志得意满，乐极生悲
- 疑心生暗鬼，空城能退敌
- 捧杀——以下克上的好方法
- 人总会多次踏进同一条河流
- 瞄准对手的惯性思维
- 第二章 精准掌控
- 抓住欲求，才能影响人心
- 对手的贪欲，正是你制胜的转机
- 阳谋——规则之内堂堂正正赢
- 用一顶高帽子把他架到火上烤
- 囚徒困境：以人性铸就的牢笼
- 投其所好，使对力气才能出效果
- 找准弱点，对症下药
- 树立一个共同的敌人
- 第三章 制人攻心
- 沉没成本：越投入，越被动
- 破窗理论：裂缝一旦产生，只会越来越坏
- 登门槛效应：想进一尺，必先得一寸
- 拆屋效应：“退而求其次”的妙用
- 阿伦森效应：夸赞永远比批评更好听
- 延迟满足效应：等一等，获取更大的满足感
- 第四章 极限拉扯
- 所谓社交，有时就是一场博弈
- 知人者智，了解越多越能反制
- 夫唯不争，故天下莫能与之争
- 捆绑站队一条龙，把“你”变成“我们”
- 故弄玄虚，吊的就是对方胃口
- 以情动人，没事打打感情牌
- 空手套白狼，打的就是信息差
- 第五章 言语交锋
- 相比真理，人们更乐意听自己想听的话
- 话不说尽，留点暗示更让人牵肠挂肚
- 说话有温度，才能赢得好感度
- “说”是手段，“服”才是重点
- 道理再多，也不如讲好一个精彩故事
- 沉默有时比滔滔不绝更有力量
- 借助权威，先从气势上压倒对方
- 第六章 思维引导
- 他人的需求正是最好的诱饵
- 用“假设”来描绘令人无法拒绝的蓝图
- 让对方相信这是他自己的选择
- 巧用提问，让对方跟着你的思路走
- 激发高尚动机，顺势掌控对方
- 步步为营，用“温水”来煮“青蛙”
- 从众心理的威压：大家都是这样做的
- 思维引导，关键是找准共同目标
- 第七章 强势掌控
- 塑造强大的正面形象
- 赏罚分明，公平公正
- 把利益分出去，才能创造更大的利益
- 保持距离，营造“高高在上”的权威感
- 拔高眼界，跳出棋局才能成为“执棋人”
- 第八章 弱势逆袭
- “道德绑架”的奇妙力量
- 越不完美，越能让人放下警惕
- 强者往往“怜弱”，这是你的机会
- 豁得出去，兔子搏鹰也尚有一搏
- 别总想着单打独斗，借力打力才是上策
- 找准“支点”，蚍蜉也可撼大树
- 让自己成为不可替代的角色
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About the author
Qiao Xin is a Chinese author of books on personal growth and management. Public information about the author is limited: nationality, dates of birth and death, educational background, and professional experience are not clearly documented, and no English name is known. Judging from the two works held in the collection, Tan Dang: The Confidence and Art of Getting Things Done in Difficult Situations and Na Nie, Qiao Xin's writing focuses on mental adjustment and the sense of proportion in handling matters within complex circumstances. One work addresses the confidence and openness needed when facing difficulties, while the other discusses the measure and tact required in dealing with people and affairs, spanning the categories of personal growth and management. The style tends toward practical reasoning, starting from choices and responses in real situations and offering readers ideas for reference rather than empty slogans. Both works share similar themes, concerned with how individuals hold their ground and judge the right measure under pressure and change, suggesting the author's sustained thinking on this subject. Given the limited material, details of the author's life and other works are not available, and readers may learn the author's focus directly from these books.
