The Wisdom of Dealing with the World

Dale Carnegie / 郑海悦 / 汝童Northern Literature and Art Publishing House (Beifang Wenyi Chubanshe) · ChinaSep 2021

3.2

Word count: 84K words
Chapters: 37

Summary

This book is the designated textbook for Carnegie's interpersonal relations training courses. Since its publication 70 years ago, it has sold over ten million copies worldwide, ranking second only to the Bible on the global bestseller list. It has been hailed as "the world's most influential training textbook," "the bible of interpersonal relations," and "the greatest, most authoritative, and most practical guide to communication and social skills in history."

The power of language is immense. Those who can skillfully harness this power often produce unexpectedly effective results, adding countless benefits to their careers and lives. By fully displaying their own style and depth, they seize opportunities and move toward success.

Editor's review

This book uses interpersonal relations training as its framework and discusses how the use of language and ways of conducting oneself affect career and life. Sources indicate it is a related textbook for Carnegie's interpersonal relations training courses; it has been in circulation for a long time and has spread widely, with content emphasizing practical principles rather than theoretical speculation. The book stresses that those who skillfully use the power of language can display their style and depth in communication, thereby seizing opportunities. For ordinary readers, its value lies in providing a set of interpersonal ideas for self-examination: how to express oneself, how to listen, and how to grasp the proper measure in different relationships. It is best read in conjunction with reflection on one's own experience rather than as a search for quick-fix techniques. Note that some cases in the book carry the background of their era; readers should make choices in light of the present environment, focusing on understanding and transferring the principles.

Who it's for

A good fit for

Professionals who wish to improve interpersonal relationships and the sense of propriety in communication
Beginner readers interested in Carnegie's ideas on interpersonal relations
Managers who need to handle team collaboration and client communication issues

Not a good fit for

Readers seeking support from rigorous empirical psychological research
Those expecting analysis specifically aimed at contemporary online social scenarios
Readers unwilling to reflect on their own behavior and only looking for shortcuts

Reading tips

Read chapter by chapter by theme, and after each chapter write down one behavioral change you can put into practice immediately
Review the book's principles against a recent failed communication experience of your own
Read together with friends or colleagues and regularly exchange experiences and confusions from practice

About the publisher

Northern Literature and Art Publishing House (Beifang Wenyi Chubanshe) China · Founded in 1961

Northern Literature and Art Publishing House focuses on contemporary and modern literary and artistic works, literary theory, and translations of foreign literature, while also covering categories such as history, popular science, Eastern philosophy, and world classics. Its collection includes 737 titles, with representative publications ranging from traditional Chinese classics such as Records of the Grand Historian, The Exploitation of the Works of Nature, and The Analects to foreign literary works including the complete classic plays of Shakespeare, Balzac's Old Goriot and Eugénie Grandet (in celebrated translations by Fu Lei), and The Complete Sherlock Holmes. Its author resources span classical figures such as Sima Qian, Song Yingxing, and Confucius, foreign writers such as Shakespeare and Balzac, and translators such as Zhu Shenghao and Fu Lei. The press combines the transmission of classics with an orientation toward general reading, developing a distinctive profile in both the editing of traditional texts and the translation of foreign literature. Public information is limited, so the above emphasizes the publishing profile reflected in the books held in the collection.

版权信息
第一章如何获得别人的赞同
不做没必要的争辩
怎样避免成为敌人
认识自己的错误
待人友善
向苏格拉底学习
多听别人说话
怎样和别人取得合作
站在别人的立场上思考问题
使用同情的力量
每个人都喜欢被鼓励
创新地表达你的观点
激发人们的竞争意识
第二章领导的技巧
以赞美的方式开始
灵活地运用批评
先承认自己的错误
不要命令别人
使对方有面子
激励别人走向成功
学会给人戴高帽子
如何把一件事做得更好
使别人愿意做你建议的事情
第三章让你拥有一个幸福的家庭
婚姻为什么会有矛盾
不要让你的婚姻进入坟墓
爱对方，就给他自由
不要批评自己的家人
粗暴的父亲
多赞美你的家人
爱情需要注意细节
对你的伴侣礼貌点，你们会更幸福
了解婚姻的症结所在
怎样和妻子相处
怎样和丈夫相处
加深我们之间的爱情

FAQ

Does this book overlap with Carnegie's other works?

This book revolves around interpersonal relations and worldly wisdom, and it overlaps thematically with Carnegie's other communication works, but the organization and emphasis differ. Readers who have already read similar books can focus on the parts of this book about the use of language and the proper measure in conducting oneself, and need not read every page.

Are the cases in the book outdated? Is it still worth reading?

Some cases in the book carry an earlier era's background, and the specific situations differ from today, but the basic principles of interpersonal communication remain continuous. Readers are advised to focus on principles rather than copying cases, and to understand them in a way that transfers to current work and social environments.

Is it suitable for young people who have just entered society?

Yes. Young people entering the workplace often face confusions about interpersonal relations and expression, and the interpersonal ideas in this book can serve as a reference. But it is advisable to read with a critical eye, make choices in light of one's own circumstances, and avoid treating the book's principles as fixed formulas.

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About the author

Dale Carnegie Author · American · 1888–1955

Dale Carnegie (1888–1955) was an American writer and lecturer and a pioneer of modern adult education and self-improvement. Born into a poor farming family in Missouri, he founded a public-speaking course at a New York YMCA in 1912, which later grew into the Carnegie training system across the United States. Writing for ordinary readers in everyday situations, he used numerous real-life examples to explain how to get along with others, overcome worry, and build confidence, in plain, readable language that stresses practical steps. His best-known works, How to Win Friends and Influence People and How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, are regarded as classics of interpersonal relations and success literature. The collection holds 217 of his works, spanning inspirational growth, social science, and social psychology.

郑海悦 Author

Zheng Haiyue is a Chinese author of inspirational and personal-growth books, though publicly available information about the author remains limited, with details such as nationality, dates of birth and death, and educational background not clearly documented. Judging from the two titles held in the library, the writing centers on success literature and the wisdom of dealing with people, represented by The Complete Works of Carnegie's Success Studies and The Wisdom of Getting Along with Others. The former organizes and compiles Carnegie's ideas on success, while the latter focuses on methods and attitudes in everyday interpersonal communication. Books of this kind are generally aimed at ordinary readers who wish to improve themselves and their relationships, and are written in accessible language with a clear structure, emphasizing practical advice rather than theoretical exposition. Although biographical information about the author is insufficient, these two works show a consistent focus on inspirational growth and practical ways of conducting oneself in society.

汝童 Author

Public information about Ru Tong is limited; all that is currently known is that the author has two works in the inspirational and personal-growth category, with representative titles including The Complete Works of Carnegie's Success Studies and The Wisdom of Dealing with People. Judging from the titles and category, the writing centers on personal growth, interpersonal communication, and ways of conducting oneself, tending to translate success-study ideas into practical everyday advice. The Complete Works of Carnegie's Success Studies suggests that the author has organized and introduced inspirational thinking in the tradition of Dale Carnegie, while The Wisdom of Dealing with People focuses on handling relationships and adjusting oneself in real life. The two books share similar themes and are likely written in an accessible style for general readers, suited to those who wish to improve communication skills and interpersonal relationships in work and daily life. Because biographical details are lacking, the author's specific background and identity await further information.