Sense of Measure
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Summary
This book efficiently interprets the construction and development of today's interpersonal relationships from a practical level, covering aspects such as demeanor and cultivation in social engagement, etiquette and rules in dealing with the world, standards and substance in doing things, measure and restraint in conduct, and wisdom and grace in working together. You can gradually apply what you learn to all aspects of life, thereby better interacting with others, boosting confidence, and correctly taking control of your work and life.
Editor's review
The book's analysis of "sense of propriety" is highly illuminating. It points out that propriety is not merely the script of "what to say and what not to say," but a comprehensive judgment ability regarding the closeness of relationships, the nature of the occasion, the other party's expectations, and one's own position. This ability is rooted in a deep understanding of social rules, rather than simple imitation of techniques. Through numerous real cases, the author reveals how imbalanced propriety in different scenarios such as the workplace, family, and friendship can lead to relationship breakdown or lost opportunities, and how appropriate propriety can lubricate relationships and facilitate cooperation.
For contemporary readers, especially young people who grew up in the internet age and are relatively unfamiliar with traditional social niceties, this book provides a valuable "decoder." It helps readers understand those unspoken social rules and avoid falling into interpersonal dilemmas due to inadvertent mistakes. At the same time, it should be noted that the essence of this book lies in its thinking framework, not in dogma. Readers should flexibly apply it in light of their specific cultural environment (such as different corporate cultures and regional cultures), avoiding mechanical application. Reading this book is more like a journey of decoding social behavior, which can significantly enhance an individual's maturity of social cognition.
Who it's for
A good fit for
- Newcomers to the workplace who hope to quickly understand the unwritten rules within organizations
- Readers who often feel confused in interpersonal interactions and hope to improve their ability to judge social situations
- People in professions requiring high interpersonal sensitivity, such as sales, management, and public relations
- Sociology or psychology enthusiasts interested in the operating logic of Chinese social niceties
Not a good fit for
- Readers expecting a ready-to-use, universal script template
- Pure idealists who believe interpersonal interactions should completely abandon rules and rely solely on sincerity
Reading tips
- It is recommended to first read through to establish a framework, then closely read and reflect on the scenarios that trouble you most (such as workplace communication and family relationships)
- While reading, compare the cases in the book with your own experiences and reflect on the reasons behind your past "appropriate" or "inappropriate" sense of propriety
- Reading this book alongside classic sociological works such as From the Soil will deepen your understanding of the cultural roots of "propriety"
About the publisher
Cultural Development Press focuses on cultural and educational publishing, maintaining a sustained presence in popular science, world classics, foreign literature, history, essays and miscellaneous writings, and social fiction, while retaining its specialty in printing and packaging textbooks. Representative books in the database include The Evolution of Physics, Shakespeare's Four Great Tragedies, Of Human Bondage, Silent Spring (new edition), The Empire of the Steppes, The Essays of Bacon, The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter, and Bangcha Girl. Its author resources involve Albert Einstein, Leopold Infeld, William Shakespeare, W. Somerset Maugham, and Rachel Carson. The press balances the introduction of classics with original works, shaping a publishing profile that values both scientific humanism and literary reading. Public information is limited; the above is summarized mainly from books in the database.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 篇一 温：入世的仪态与修养
- 第一章 近而不乱：保持距离感，是对别人起码的尊重
- 第二章 温而不谄：随和友善，守住讨喜的底线
- 篇二 良：处世的礼仪与规矩
- 第三章 直而不僵：刚正朴重，亦不失方圆中正
- 第四章 善而不居：随缘乐助，别把自己当成救世主
- 第五章 诚而不愚：当智则智，抱诚守真，但绝不天真幼稚
- 篇三 恭：做事的标准与内涵
- 第六章 谦而不卑：不矜不伐低调做人，不低不媚拒绝卑微
- 第七章 和而不同：拒绝别人同化自己，也不苛求同质别人
- 篇四 俭：行事的分寸与节制
- 第八章 节而不言：莫说闲话是闲话，往往事从闲话来
- 第九章 欲而不贪：欲是本能心病，俭是生活体统
- 篇五 让：共事的智慧与风度
- 第十章 为而不争：把该做的事情做好，把纠纷的灾祸避掉
- 第十一章 巧而不辩：没有人能在争吵中获益，赢下一局树下一敌
- 第十二章 博而不知：你聪明是件好事，但不要强调你的优越感
FAQ
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About the author
Niu Kejin is a Chinese book author with limited publicly available information. His writing centers on management, inspirational personal growth, social science, and history. Judging from the eleven titles in the collection, he focuses on the real situations ordinary people face in the workplace and in everyday interaction, and he is skilled at turning management methods, communication techniques, and interpersonal tact into practical experience. His representative work, Teach You How to Become a Management Expert, takes the improvement of management skills as its main thread, while Head-On: Seven Weapons of Non-Logical Communication examines the non-logical factors in communication. Books such as Sense of Propriety, Dignity, Warmth, and Occasion discuss expressive wisdom and social etiquette from multiple angles. His writing is practical, plain in language, and often uses concrete situations to explain principles, making it suitable for readers who wish to improve their management literacy and social skills.
