Take Control
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Summary
Editor's review
Who it's for
A good fit for
- Young readers just entering the workplace who want to sharpen their communication sensitivity
- People who often stumble in relationships because they cannot read others' attitudes
- General readers interested in nonverbal signals and behavioral observation
- Sales professionals who need to improve client communication and relationship maintenance
Not a good fit for
- Readers expecting systematic psychological theory and empirical research support
- People who dislike treating social interaction as a contest of techniques and value genuine relationships
- Those hoping to use the book to manipulate others for personal gain
Reading tips
- Read the self-observation part first, then the chapters on observing others—it is easier to start from the inside out.
- After each section, recall a recent real scenario and review it against the signals described in the book.
- Understand "steering" as "actively managing" to avoid misusing the book's methods.
- After finishing, try two or three techniques in low-risk settings, record the results, and adjust.
About the publisher
Beijing Standway Books Co., Ltd. is an organization dedicated to book planning and publishing, covering fields such as history reading, literary appreciation, applied psychology, world history, and inspirational growth. Representative books in its catalog include works by renowned authors such as Lü Simian and Wu Han, such as the two-volume set Chinese Historical Common Knowledge, the five-volume Collected Works of Ming History Scholar Wu Han, the two-volume set Common Knowledge of Ancient Poetry, the five-volume Psychology of Intimate Relationships, and the five-volume set Treasures of World Art. Its author resources include Chinese and foreign scholars and authors such as Lü Simian, Wu Han, Hu Yunyi, Amir Levine, and Rachel Heller. In terms of publishing characteristics, it emphasizes series-based and multi-volume planning while balancing popular reading in history and the humanities and social sciences. Public information is limited, and specific publishing scale and operational details should be based on official information.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 前言
- 第一章 说你行，你就行——操纵你的性格
- 自信是一堂必修课
- 他们都是“木头人”
- 在心里种下一棵向日葵
- 每个人都有把“快乐的钥匙”
- 活鱼逆流而上，死鱼随波逐流
- 找借口还是找方法
- 用足够多的云翳编一个美丽的黄昏
- 别让不良期望影响你
- 第二章 善于做个“隐形人”——操纵你的形象
- 你永远没有第二次机会树立第一印象
- 生命是一段无可替代的旅程
- 为工作贴上卓越的“标签”
- 乌贼喷墨，让对方无法窥探
- 将嘴挂在墙上
- 糊涂人聪明一世
- 在倾听中赢得主动
- 在低调中修炼自己
- 聪明人多，能过“愚”字关者鲜矣
- 第三章 处世之道——操纵你的生活
- 淡化你的光芒，生活更幸福
- 你的性格是哪种颜色
- 衣着中隐藏的“秘密语言”
- 字相与性格
- 低价是砍出来的
- 婆媳关系好相处
- 还期待以惊喜
- 第四章 小动作出卖你——操纵你的习惯
- 自卑让你狂妄无礼吗
- 从站姿看性格与心理
- 坐姿暴露个人性格
- 瞬间识破你的谎言
- 餐桌上摸透他人个性
- 奇怪的健谈者
- “反向”的心理防御
- 识别含糊式拒绝
- 通过语速透视内心变化
- 观察那些独特的心理泄露
- 第五章 掌控全局——操纵你的话题
- 微笑是一把钥匙
- 服人以德，感人以心
- 因势利导，诱导别人说“是”
- 没话找话的本领
- 动人心者莫先于情
- 真诚赢得尊重
- 第六章 拉近心理距离——操纵你的人际
- 寻找赞美点，打破人脉僵局
- 适度暴露你的小“瑕疵”
- 善意的谎言是美丽的
- 设己身处其境而察其心
- 倾听是一种姿态
- 细节定成败
- 第七章 你会恋爱吗——操纵你的爱情
- 谁说恋爱没有技巧
- 为爱情赢得美好开局
- 一步一步接近爱
- 相似者相爱
- 让吵架成为感情的润滑剂
- 爱情与嫉妒是一对双胞胎
- 危险情境下更易擦出爱情火花
- 第八章 攻心为上——操纵你的客户
- 窥探消费者心理，赢得市场
- 顾客主要心理分析，有效激发顾客的购买欲望
- 心理战术面面观
- 嗓音好，是个宝；嗓音坏，事业败
- 知己知彼，百战不殆
- 成功就是演好每一个角色
- 第九章 虚者，实之——操纵你的对手
- 沉默也是一种威慑力
- 巧妙化解危机
- 软批评的力量
- 说“不”的艺术
- 障敌之眼，麻痹对手
- 于无声处听惊雷
- 换个角度，做应变高手
- 声东击西，商不厌诈
- 第十章 无硝烟的战场——操纵你的职场
- 警惕：办公桌暴露你的职场性格
- 怎样赢得老板的信任
- 眼睛会说话
- 上位者用人，究竟看重什么
- 因材而治，让每个下属都听话
- 给他戴上“紧箍咒”
- 谈薪是个技术活儿
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About the author
Information currently available to the public about Tu Mingye is limited. It is known that one work by this author, Mastering Control, has been published. Judging from its title and its common classification, the book belongs to the inspirational and personal-growth genre, focusing on themes such as self-management, adjusting one's mindset, and improving personal abilities. Around the idea of "control," the author sets out to guide readers to examine their own circumstances and learn to keep their rhythm amid constant change, so as to form a clearer understanding of their lives and choices. Because biographical details have not been disclosed, the author's nationality, dates of birth and death, educational background, and professional experience cannot be verified, and no established English rendering of the name is known. Understanding of the author therefore rests mainly on Mastering Control itself: its approach combines practical advice with reasoning, its tone is plain, and it is aimed at general readers who hope to gain useful methods from reading.
