Cultivating with My Husband
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Summary
Few people sail through life entirely at ease; everyone has done their share of scrabbling and swallowing their grievances.
Once, while I was vacuuming the living room, my child's father was half-lying on the sofa, supervising my work. I was furious and muttered, "This vacuum cleaner is getting worse and worse."
He suddenly stood up and said, "Then put it down! I'll get you a new one later—the one a friend gave us last time hasn't even been unboxed yet."
I got even angrier.
Do you take me for a nanny? Can't you see how hard I work?
Do you even see me? Are you thinking of divorce?
But if he had said, "Then put it down! I'll do it later!"
Everything would have been different...
One person cooks, one person does the dishes, one person tidies the house, one person looks after the child, one person helps with homework, one person takes the kid to tutoring classes all over town...
In marriage, there really are many lonely people. Day after day they live chaotic, busy lives.
Ge Shisan tells you, "What's so great about getting married?"
Editor's review
The book's value lies in its strong grounding in reality and its distinctive emotional insight. It does not shy away from friction and frustration in marriage, but focuses even more on how individuals can maintain spiritual independence and achieve personal growth within this symbiotic relationship. Ge Shisan's characters, especially the women, take on multiple roles as wives and mothers while never abandoning their search for self-worth. This idea of "spiritual practice"—growing alongside one's partner—offers readers a positive, pragmatic, and wise perspective on life. It does not manufacture anxiety but offers relief and empathy; it does not preach abstractions but provokes thought through vivid stories. For modern readers seeking balance between intimate relationships and personal life, this book is a humorous and healing remedy.
Who it's for
A good fit for
- Readers in a marriage who feel worn down by daily trivialities and long for recognition and an outlet.
- Readers interested in women's growth who like to draw strength from life stories.
- Readers who appreciate a witty, humorous style of writing imbued with life wisdom.
- Middle-aged readers facing the double pressure of family and work who need light reading to ease anxiety.
Not a good fit for
- Readers expecting systematic, theoretical guidance on marriage.
- Readers with no interest in family-life subjects, or those who prefer serious literature and grand narratives.
Reading tips
- It can be read as a collection of life essays in spare moments; each standalone chapter brings a smile or a moment of reflection.
- Readers may wish to connect the book with their own experiences; many of its scene-based descriptions effectively prompt reflection on one's own relationships.
- There is no need to finish it in one sitting; it suits casual reading whenever one needs to relax or find resonance, offering a sense of companionship through its words.
About the publisher
Hunan Literature and Art Publishing House is a publisher known for its literary titles, with a catalogue spanning foreign literature, world classics, classical Chinese literature, essays and miscellaneous writings, and mystery and detective fiction. Judging from the more than 1,100 books in the database, the press publishes foreign classics such as Crime and Punishment, Snow Country, The Complete Sherlock Holmes and Letter from an Unknown Woman, as well as Chinese classical and modern literary works including Lu Xun's Wandering and A Madman's Diary and Wu Jingzi's The Scholars. In terms of translators and authors, translations by Cao Guowei and Tan Jinghua appear in its foreign literature titles, and the authors involved include Dostoevsky, Kawabata Yasunari, Conan Doyle and Zweig. Its publishing character lies in introducing Chinese and foreign literary classics side by side, balancing popular and serious works and attending to both readability and literary value. Public information is limited; the above is a brief overview based solely on the books in the database.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 序
- 01 带夫修行
- 心腹大患
- 朋克配偶
- 挂一个号看俩病
- “云恩爱”
- 带夫修行
- 就要个体面
- 费脑的兄弟
- 没有狗粮
- 情绪价值
- 歧视链
- 自我复原
- 金刚钻
- 火候还没到
- 我可真不错
- 02 处成道友
- 低欲望保命
- 红绿事件
- 向下兼容
- 处成道友
- 智者不入爱河
- 婚姻的裤腰带
- 多一事不如少一事
- 家里的企业文化
- 殊途同归
- 婚姻里的体面
- 婚姻的意义
- 03 纽约芝士还是巧克力千层？
- 好爸爸：优质婚姻核心
- 副作用
- 得有人唱白脸
- 纽约芝士还是巧克力千层？
- 全是作业
- 应试生活标配
- 听我说谢谢你
- 挺直腰杆的秘方
- 刀刃儿
- 隐性投资
- 时间管理大师
- 对冲式锁定亲家
- 整整齐齐
- 04 灵魂十问
- 择偶标准
- 灵魂十问
- 禁忌话题：爱情
- 高开低走，宽进严出
- 参照物
- 悄悄地成长
- 下降空间
- 还有机会
- 浪漫太贵
- 社交更贵
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About the author
Ge Shisan is an author for whom public information is currently limited; only one work is held in the collection, the essay collection Dài Fū Xiūxíng (roughly, Cultivating Myself While Bringing My Husband Along). Judging from the title and its classification, the book uses an essayistic style to explore everyday experiences of marriage and family life, combining self-reflection with a wry personal voice. The phrase "bringing my husband along to cultivate" frames the partnership as a long-term practice requiring patience and self-awareness, suggesting the author's interest in close relationships and a light, humorous manner of expression. Since reliable records of the author's biography, nationality, and English name are unavailable, it would be inappropriate here to speculate about her upbringing or writing career. What can be said is that Ge Shisan's work belongs to the tradition of personal-life essays, addressing family subjects from a woman's perspective with an approachable, witty tone. For readers who hope to find meaning in the small details of daily life, such writing offers an accessible and familiar point of entry.
