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The Art of Getting Along

Rating 2.1
Word count
158K words
Chapters
84
ISBN
9787515504353

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Summary

The Art of Getting Along (by Ma Yinchun) offers a comprehensive discussion of how to conduct oneself in society, covering such aspects as reading people, networking, social engagements, eloquence, flexibility, and mindset. To highlight the book's practical value, we have added a series of vivid examples to support the themes, making the book more persuasive. Overall, the book is rich in content and lively in language, with strong practical value; while striving to meet readers' needs, it stays close to everyday life.

Editor's review

The Art of Getting Along is a practical work by Ma Yinchun in the field of interpersonal relations and personal cultivation. Rather than an abstruse theoretical treatise, it focuses on the concrete, everyday scenarios of getting along with others and offers a wealth of actionable advice and perspectives. Online research shows that reader feedback on major book platforms is polarized: some readers find the content plain and close to life, providing immediately usable methods for communication and self-conduct; others note that some views feel somewhat clichéd and could use more depth. From an editorial perspective, the book's value lies in its "toolbox" nature. It breaks complex social ethics into modules such as "reading people," "making friends," "conversation," and "self-cultivation," making it especially suitable for readers new to society or those who wish to systematically organize their understanding of interpersonal relations. Ma Yinchun has long written in this field, and the style is accessible; however, some discussions would be more convincing if combined with more vivid contemporary cases. Overall, this is an introductory guide focused on practice; its significance lies not in proposing startling theories but in helping readers build a basic, sound framework for conduct in social life.

Who it's for

A good fit for

  • Young readers entering the workplace who wish to improve their interpersonal sensitivity
  • People who feel their social patterns are fixed and seek gentle ways to change
  • Readers confused by social niceties who need a basic guide to organize their thinking
  • Readers who prefer practical books with clear structure and point-by-point discussion

Not a good fit for

  • Readers seeking deep philosophical exploration or rigorous academic analysis
  • Readers who already have a mature system for interpersonal relations and expect advanced breakthroughs

Reading tips

  1. Try comparing the book's views with your own recent experiences and consider which suggestions have direct reference value
  2. There is no need to finish it in one sitting; fragmented reading by chapter or theme, with immediate reflection, suits it better
  3. Keep sticky notes handy while reading to mark the suggestions most different from your habitual ways, and observe them closely afterward

About the publisher

Gold Wall Press China · Founded in 1989

Gold Wall Press is a publisher active in the fields of social culture and intellectual reading, with titles spanning social culture, literary appreciation, medicine, war and military life, and social psychology. In academic and intellectual publishing, it has released works by Zygmunt Bauman such as Individualized Society and Community, along with related writings by scholars including Cheng Boqing and Ouyang Jinggen. Its writing and creativity list is represented by John Truby's The Anatomy of Genres writing masterclass. Medical and psychological titles include Stephen W. Porges's Polyvagal Theory guide in three volumes and works such as I Try So Hard to Live. Literary works include Chen Gui and Shadow. It should be noted that public information on the press's full publishing history and organization is limited; the above introduction is based mainly on the publishing directions reflected in the books in the catalog.

Contents

  1. 版权信息
  2. 前言
  3. 第1章 察言观色,处世要有识人的眼力
  4. 管中窥豹,微处识人
  5. 观察举止,体态表露人心
  6. 变换角度,客观全面地识人
  7. 透过小动作识破对方
  8. 不以貌取人,不以貌欺人
  9. 眼睛对于透析人性的意义
  10. 识人言,做对事
  11. 宁可不识字,不可不识人
  12. 第2章 处世要懂心理学
  13. 记住对方的名字
  14. 主动出击,克服消极等待的心理
  15. 家庭教育也要懂点心理学
  16. 海纳百川,宽容是福
  17. 多说“我们”少说“我”
  18. 激发共鸣,拉近心理距离
  19. 巧妙掌控客户心理
  20. 第3章 结好人脉网,处世要懂人情学
  21. 你存储人情账户了吗
  22. 懂得如何借助“贵人”
  23. 赠人玫瑰,手有余香
  24. 投资一分感情,收获十分人情
  25. 诚信是处世之本
  26. 别玩寂寞,孤独不是社会的主旋律
  27. 给别人面子,自己就有机会
  28. 你也可以成为人脉高手
  29. 第4章 会应酬的人会处世
  30. 出门应酬要保持良好的形象
  31. 微笑是应酬的催化剂
  32. 应酬场上,学会为自己解围
  33. 亲切称呼缩短彼此距离
  34. 饭局里的应酬学
  35. 觥筹交错,学会在酒桌上办事
  36. 点菜也是一种技术
  37. 第5章 能说会道,巧妙赢得他人心
  38. 幽默是处世的王牌
  39. 有时耳朵比嘴巴更有用
  40. 硬邦邦的话,软绵绵地说
  41. 将批评夹在赞美中
  42. 巧妙拒绝,让对方觉得不伤面子
  43. 别把话说满,给自己留下回旋的余地
  44. 委婉地表达,就能收到预期的效果
  45. 第6章 方圆有度,处世要活
  46. 欲将取之,必先予之
  47. 低调处世是一种手腕
  48. 吃亏不一定是坏事
  49. 刚柔并济,灵活处世
  50. 能方能圆,会适应、善变通
  51. 弹性交际,不要与人斗气
  52. 智欲圆而行欲方
  53. 大直若屈,大巧若拙
  54. 待人要真诚,方直感人
  55. 第7章 万事“礼”为先,处世其实很简单
  56. 谦虚有礼是处世之良方
  57. 为人处世礼先行
  58. 礼多人不怪
  59. 小礼物,大作用
  60. 得体的仪表是处世的关键
  61. 做客的礼节不容忽视
  62. 小握手,大礼节
  63. 第8章 拥有超然的心态,便始终握有处世的主动权
  64. 热情是一种兴奋剂
  65. 放下自私,像爱自己一样爱别人
  66. 虚荣,死要面子活受罪
  67. 嫉妒乃处世之大忌
  68. 少一点欲念,多一点超脱
  69. 积极的心态足以改变命运
  70. 知足常乐,摆正心态才能幸福
  71. 拿得起,放得下
  72. 生命要懂得感恩
  73. 第9章 学会与各种人相处
  74. 如何与陌生人相处
  75. 如何与亲戚相处
  76. 如何与领导相处
  77. 如何与同事相处
  78. 如何与敌人相处
  79. 如何与小人相处
  80. 如何与失败的人相处
  81. 如何与奸诈的人相处
  82. 如何与正直的人相处
  83. 如何与脾气暴躁的人相处
  84. 主要参考文献

FAQ

What is the difference between this book and Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People?
Both fall within the realm of practical interpersonal relations, but their perspectives and cultural backgrounds differ. Carnegie's work focuses more on classic analysis of commercial society and universal human psychology, while this book is closer to the context of everyday Chinese social niceties, with more localized cases and wording.
Does the content overemphasize "technique" and seem utilitarian?
The author does offer many specific methods, but the tone remains grounded in sincerity, self-cultivation, and mutual benefit. Readers can view these "techniques" as ways to examine and improve their own behavior rather than purely utilitarian manipulation.
Is it suitable as a gift?
If the recipient is in a stage of adjusting or growing in interpersonal relations (such as a graduate or new employee) and is not averse to such topics, it is a proper and practical gift. If the person is sensitive to such subjects, consider carefully.

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About the author

马银春 Author · China · 1974

Ma Yinchun, born in 1974 in Yongdeng, Lanzhou, Gansu, is an experienced writer and publishing professional who has worked in the book industry for more than a decade. He has long written popular books for general readers on motivation, management, social skills, and self-cultivation, and 95 of his titles are held in the collection, with subjects also extending to social culture, history, philosophy, and social psychology. Among them, the four "24 Lessons Heard at Peking University" volumes on wealth, history, philosophy, and management, together with works such as Businesspeople Should Learn Some Chinese Classics, Businesspeople Should Know Some History, and Businesspeople Should Understand Some Philosophy, reflect his approach of connecting the humanities with business practice and everyday cultivation. His writing is generally accessible and clearly organized, with an emphasis on practicality and readability. Publicly available information about his education, awards, and specific career history is limited, so these are not elaborated here.

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