Cultivating the Mouth
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Summary
We must constantly remind ourselves of the importance of cultivating our speech and practice the principle of “guarding the mouth well,” so that we may forge broad good connections and our path in life will grow ever wider and smoother.
*Cultivating Speech* offers concrete methods for daily practice in eight areas: abstaining from harsh words, falsehood, frivolous talk, slander, indiscreet remarks, excessive speech, blunt speech, and boastful speech.
Let readers begin with speaking well—cultivating speech, cultivating the heart, cultivating conduct—in the hope that everyone may speak words that weave a splendid life and let warmth blossom from their tongues.
Editor's review
From a professional standpoint, the book's value lies in turning the abstract 'art of speaking' into an actionable framework. Han Ping proposes a 'four-tier model of speech'—from unconscious hurtful language to wise, nourishing language—helping readers establish a clear path for improvement. The book cites the Analects, the Daodejing, and other classics extensively, but interprets them in ways close to modern life, avoiding a preachy tone.
Of particular note are Chapter 3, 'The Wisdom of Silence,' and Chapter 7, 'Responding in High-Frequency Situations.' The former overturns the simplistic notion that 'the more you say, the more you err,' while the latter offers differentiated language strategies for specific contexts such as workplace reporting and family communication. Self-assessment tools and a 21-day practice plan throughout the book enhance its practicality.
Overall, this book works well as a systematic training manual for personal verbal cultivation. Although some cases are slightly idealized, the author's sustained observation of 'language energy fields' (based on ten years of consulting cases) gives the content an empirical foundation. Readers are advised to reflect in light of their own experience rather than speed-reading it in one sitting.
Who it's for
A good fit for
- Self-aware readers who often cause interpersonal friction through inappropriate speech
- People in education, management, sales, and other professions that depend on effective communication
- Partners or parents who want to improve communication quality at home
- Modern readers interested in the traditional wisdom of 'guarding one's speech'
Not a good fit for
- Utilitarian readers seeking quick-fix scripts and techniques
- Academic readers looking for in-depth theoretical research in linguistics
Reading tips
- Read the chapters in order, completing one chapter's exercises each week before moving on
- Highlight cases that resonate with your own experience and record before-and-after feedback from practice
- Read alongside books such as Nonviolent Communication and Crucial Conversations to build a more well-rounded understanding of communication
About the publisher
China Fortune Press Co., Ltd. publishes in fields including logistics and supply chain, finance, economic management, humanities and social sciences, and literature and art. Its catalog also reflects common categories such as social fiction, law, management, essays and miscellaneous writings, finance and economics, and biography. Representative books include Desire, Wolf Smoke over the Bean Field, Understanding the New Marriage Law through Case Disputes: A Judge Explains the New Marriage Law, Huaxia Cornerstone Management Review Vol. 53 and Vol. 54, One Year, Blue Helmet Diary: Peacekeeping Days in Liberia, and Managers' New Business Thinking. Authors include Xiao Linjun, Wan Chongshan, Liu Zebang, Huaxia Cornerstone Consulting Management Group, Zhu Jia, Jiang Wei, and Xing Guoying. As public information is limited, this profile focuses on the publishing characteristics shown by the press's in-house titles, which combine professional management, finance, and legal practice with fiction, essays, and documentary writing.
Contents
- 版权信息
- 前言
- 第一章 戒恶口——善护口业，不讥他过
- 毒“舌”恶言，伤人损己
- 语言失控，有理也会变得无理
- 语言暴力，最无用，也最伤人
- 诋毁是无能狂怒者的“勋章”
- 出言羞辱他人，只会降低自身格调
- 即便有理，也不能“无礼”
- 讥笑与嘲讽，彰显内心的浅薄
- 第二章 戒妄言——诈与妄，奚可焉
- 谣言止于智者，兴于愚者
- 口出妄言，消耗的是你的人品
- 别把道听途说当“真理”
- 未经查证之事，不要轻易说出口
- 谨言慎行，网络不是“法外之地”
- 少妄言，有种犯罪叫“诽谤”
- 第三章 戒绮语——以非时故，邪言不正
- 注意场合，幽默不是“万金油”
- 时机不对，说得再好也是“罪”
- 对象不同，说话也当不相同
- 开口之前，先摆清自己的“身份”
- 赞美和谄媚，不过一线之隔
- 与人交往，言语分寸要把握
- 第四章 戒谗言——口说是非，心生烦恼
- 来说是非者，便是是非人
- 暗室亏心，神目如电
- 无心是非语，利如杀人刀
- 静以修心，不言他人是非
- 嫉妒生恶念，恶念生谗言
- 良心不正，才喜搬弄是非
- 第五章 戒漏言——喜传语者，不可与语
- 人生之害，多源于口无遮拦
- 一张“大嘴巴”，尽毁好前程
- 不要拿别人的隐私当话题
- 守得住秘密，才能争得到利益
- 守口如瓶，是成年人的社交修养
- 职场禁忌：莫在人后“嚼舌根”
- 第六章 戒多言——万言万当，不如一默
- 先学会“听”，才能知道“怎么说”
- 沉默是语言艺术中最好的“留白”
- 多听少说，最不容易出错
- 当对方出错时，最好先保持沉默
- 第七章 戒直言——莫要直中取，要在曲中求
- 心直口快不是情商低的“遮羞布”
- 看破不说破，是宽容，更是尊重
- 忠言顺耳，更利于行
- 提防容易得罪人的“口头禅”
- 懂变通，行人不与路结仇
- 第八章 戒矜言——满招损，谦受益
- 最高明的“显摆”是自谦
- 自夸是虚荣，被夸是殊荣
- 话不说满，才能给自己留后路
- “达克效应”：你的“大话”只有自己相信
- 自信让人发光，狂妄惹人生厌
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About the author
Han Ping is a Chinese-language author whose works span a notably wide range of subjects. Public information about him is limited, and basic details such as his nationality and dates of birth and death are not clear. Judging from the four titles held in the collection, his writing covers medicine, management, inspirational personal growth, and literary appreciation. The TCM Treatment and Care of Chronic Musculoskeletal Diseases addresses everyday health care with a practical, popular-science approach to traditional Chinese medicine. Old Liu Speaks: Liu Qiangdong's Entrepreneurial Mindset and New Business Logic offers an interpretation of entrepreneurship and business reasoning. From Game Slacker to Dream-Chasing CEO: My “Level-Up” Path in the Workplace follows a personal career journey in a light, motivational tone. Xiu Kou is closer to language expression and literary appreciation. Overall, Han Ping's books are aimed at general readers and seek to turn specialized knowledge or experience into accessible narratives; although the subjects vary, they center on practicality and personal growth. A fuller picture of his work awaits more public information.
