The Art of Dealing with People and Conducting Oneself

罗鲜英China Zhigong Publishing House Co., Ltd. · ChinaApr 2017

Rating 3.0
Word count
202K words
Chapters
13
ISBN
9787801795236

Tags

Motivation and Growth Interpersonal CommunicationSocial EtiquetteWorldly WisdomInterpersonal WisdomSocial ConductSelf-CultivationSelf ImprovementBehavioral InsightPopular PsychologyMoral Cultivation

Summary

Social conduct is a life skill, and in the broadest sense it determines success or failure in life. If you lack good opportunities and are not particularly clever, mastering the art of dealing with people can still bring success your way.

Editor's review

The Art of Dealing with People is a practical guide that systematically explores interpersonal communication and social wisdom. Drawing on extensive observation and practice, author Luo Xianying distills complex social principles into actionable knowledge. The book covers not only traditional etiquette and communication skills but also delves into human psychology and the nature of social interaction, helping readers build more harmonious relationships at work, at home, and in everyday social settings.

Structurally, the book is divided into three parts: foundational principles, situational application, and self-cultivation. The foundational section clearly explains core concepts such as respect, integrity, and empathy; the situational section offers concrete advice for common scenarios such as business negotiations, colleague collaboration, and interactions with family and friends; the final section on self-cultivation emphasizes the fundamental influence of inner character on social effectiveness. This progression from concept to practice to internalization reflects the author's deep understanding of social wisdom—true social ability arises from the unity of inner cultivation and outward technique.

Particularly noteworthy is the book's insightful discussion of "sense of proportion." The author points out that many interpersonal problems stem not from ill will but from a lack of sensitivity to context, relational distance, and cultural differences. This grasp of subtle boundaries is precisely where traditional Chinese wisdom meets modern social needs. The book's practical value lies in the fact that it does not stop at vague moral preaching but provides concrete behavioral frameworks that can be observed, learned, and adjusted.

For contemporary readers, in a context where digital socializing is increasingly widespread but deep connection is scarce, the principles of sincerity, attentiveness, and moderation emphasized in this book are especially valuable. It reminds us that no matter how technology changes, the core of good interpersonal relationships always lies in understanding and respecting people.

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Reading tips

  1. Read the whole book first to build a framework, then focus on chapters relevant to your weak areas
  2. While reading, compare the book's principles with your own experiences and consider how to adjust your responses
  3. Don't aim for perfection in practice; start with one or two details you can improve

About the publisher

China Zhigong Publishing House Co., Ltd. China · Founded in 2002

China Zhigong Publishing House focuses on books in history and literature, economics and management, lifestyle and leisure, and education, while also covering comics, literature, and social sciences. Its catalog shows titles across foreign literature, applied psychology, history, Eastern philosophy, and social psychology, including A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, Our Inner Conflicts, History Lessons, Philosophy Lessons, Five Thousand Years of Chinese Politics, and A Brief History of Chinese Culture. Its authors include Betty Smith, Karen Horney, Fu Sinian, Zhang Yinlin, and Chen Yinke. The press has developed a distinctive role in promoting traditional Chinese culture and connecting with overseas Chinese. Due to limited public information, further details on its specific series and publishing plans remain to be supplemented.

Contents

  1. 前言
  2. 第一章佛要金装，人要衣装
  3. 第二章好话一句三冬暖，恶语伤人六月寒
  4. 第三章凡人“不”出口，神仙难下手
  5. 第四章逢鬼说鬼话，逢人讲真言
  6. 第五章大智若愚，大巧若拙
  7. 第六章退一步海阔天空，忍一时风平浪静
  8. 第七章如水之交，味浓
  9. 第八章水至清则无鱼，人至察则无徒
  10. 第九章明是一盆火，暗是一把刀
  11. 第十章与其锦上添花，不如雪中送炭
  12. 第十一章釜底抽薪，竭泽而渔
  13. 第十二章不学礼，无以立

FAQ

How does this book differ from similar books on social conduct? This book places greater emphasis on combining traditional Chinese social wisdom with modern social scenarios and on balancing inner cultivation with outward technique, rather than simply listing behavioral tips.
Are the principles in this book applicable to cross-cultural socializing? Core principles such as respect and integrity are universal, but the situational analyses are mainly based on Chinese cultural contexts; readers should note differences and adjust when applying them cross-culturally.
How can the book's ideas be turned into practical ability? Adopt an "observe–reflect–adjust" cycle: first observe your own social patterns, reflect on them against the book's principles, then start adjusting your behavior in small ways and gradually internalize it into natural responses.

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About the author

罗鲜英 Author

Luo Xianying is a Chinese author with a fairly diverse body of work, though public information about her is limited, and her background, nationality, and dates of birth and death are not clearly documented. Nine of her titles are held in the collection, spanning health and wellness, management, inspirational growth, applied psychology, and biography. Representative works include Health Is Three Parts Hydration and Seven Parts Dietary Nourishment, Jack Welch's 11 Principles for Young Managers, Speaking in the Way People Most Like to Hear, The Art of Dealing with People, Reading History for Insight, The Complete Book of Postpartum Beauty, Slimming, and Health Care, The Most Outstanding Business Leaders, and 10 Kinds of Women Successful Men Must Stay Away From. These titles suggest that she writes mainly for general readers, focusing on everyday health care, workplace communication, and practical wisdom in handling people, while also touching on business figures and management experience. Her writing tends toward practical advice and accessible expression, with a clear self-help and life-guidance flavor.